THE CONSTANT STRUGGLE BETWEEN STRESS AND SELF-CARE
Stress is one of the most important triggers for health problems during menopause. A lack of self-care is often accompanied by an excess of stress. Now you can argue, “Yeah, we all know we’re under too much stress and not enough time – how can I even think about self care?” That’s correct! But let me give you an example: When we are on a plane, the stewardess always reminds us that in the event of a drop of oxygen, we must FIRST put the oxygen mask on OURSELVES and THEN on our children.
It’s the same with self care! If we don’t consciously take the time to take care of our needs, both physically and mentally; if we keep asking our mind and body more and more, then our battery will eventually run out and we can’t give anymore – even if we want to.
BUT WHAT ARE THE REASONS WHY WE ABANDON SELF-CARE?
- Family responsibilities: Many women in midlife have children and elderly parents who require their attention and care. As a result, they may neglect their own well-being.
- Work-life balance: Women in midlife are often balancing demanding careers and family responsibilities, leaving little time for self-care.
- Financial constraints: Midlife women may have financial constraints that limit their ability to invest in self-care activities such as spa treatments, exercise classes, or healthy eating habits.
- Mental health challenges: Women in midlife may be facing increased stress, anxiety, or depression, leading to a neglect of self-care practices.
- Lack of awareness: Some women may not be aware of the importance of self-care and how it can improve their physical and mental well-being.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
WAYS YOU CAN GIVE YOURSELF A BIT OF LOVE
- Exercise: Incorporating physical activity, such as yoga, walking, or dancing, into a daily routine can improve physical and mental health.
- Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness through meditation, deep breathing, or journaling can help reduce stress and improve mental well-being. There are apps for free that teach you mindfulness.
- Nutrition: Eating a balanced and healthy diet can improve physical health and reduce the risk of chronic diseases.
- Sleep: Getting enough quality sleep is crucial for physical and mental well-being.
- Self-reflection: Taking time to reflect on personal values, goals, and priorities can help women in midlife find meaning and purpose in their lives.
- Social connections: Maintaining positive relationships with friends, family, and community can provide support and improve overall well-being.
- Hobbies and interests: Pursuing hobbies and interests can provide a sense of fulfillment and boost self-esteem.
HOW CAN I ALLOCATE TIME FOR SELF CARE IN MY SCHEDULE?
We have many tools that can help us to implement a change:
- Setting boundaries: We should set clear boundaries with family, friends, and colleagues to limit the demands on their time and energy.
- Saying no: There is no reason why we should feel guilty about saying no to activities or responsibilities that do not align with our priorities or goals.
- Delegating tasks: Start to delegate tasks where possible, such as household chores or errands, to free up time for self-care activities.
- Avoiding burnout: Avoid overcommitting yourself and prioritize rest and relaxation to avoid burnout.
- Seeking support: We can seek support from friends, family, or professionals to help manage our responsibilities and make time for self-care.
- Assertiveness: We should practice assertiveness and communicate our needs and boundaries clearly and respectfully.
By setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care, we can improve our physical and mental well-being enourmously and lead happier, fulfilling lives.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Start with small steps. If these are part of your routine, you can go one step further. Steadily and always in the direction that is good for you.
Take good care of your!